Anyway, that is something that I have been thinking about for a couple of months now, but today I read this article on whether it's harder to raise a boy or a girl. I found the article through my favorite non-personal blog, OhDeeDoh. Whether you have a boy or girl or if you are a boy or a girl, it's definitely an interesting read. As a mom of both a boy and a girl, it makes me realize the importance of keeping in mind that boys and girls really are different and need different parenting. This article taught me some interesting things about how a boy is just wired differently and why that makes boys (and girls) the way that they are. Even at this young age, it's crazy how gender instinctively makes Annabelle love to play with her baby dolls or help with chores and Corgan continually hurts me with his purposeful slaps, head butts, and scratches. It's going to be interesting to watch these gender differences become even more apparent as they grow up, and it's going to be a challenge for me as their mom to keep those differences in mind when trying to understand why they do what they do yet try to discourage the pigeon-holing that sometimes comes with just accepting the differences and not helping each child to succeed where they might not otherwise because of gender stereotypes. Although it's still really early, I think I've already got the right mindset as I love to see Annabelle tomboy it up (except for when she decides to stop and play in the dirt when we're on our way out the door) and I don't think twice about handing a baby doll to Corgan. Also, since I have a very logical mind and have always excelled in areas (like math and computers) that are typically male-dominated, I feel like I will treat Annabelle as if she is equal in those areas too. Of course, if she isn't naturally good at it, this assumption of equality may make it harder for her so I will just have to remind myself about that if that ever becomes apparent.
Wow... motherhood sure is complicated whether you have a boy or girl or both!